Turn Your Everyday Speaking Into Impact: A 5-Step Self-Coaching System
Turn Your Everyday Speaking Into Impact: A 5-Step Self-Coaching System
Watch the original video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/u6sLt-tFAz8
If you want to become a confident, compelling communicator, you do not need fancy gear or endless scripts. You already know what good looks and sounds like. This post turns that awareness into a practical self-coaching routine you can use every day to sharpen your public speaking and communication skills.
Why this works
Your subconscious constantly rates speakers on clarity, energy, confidence, presence, and structure. The catch is we rarely watch ourselves objectively. This five-part process helps you benchmark your current style, spot unhelpful habits, and make fast, focused improvements.
Step 1 - Record a 4 minute unscripted video
Use your phone. Zero prep, zero retakes.
Speak on familiar topics so you can be natural, not polished.
Use these prompts to reach about four minutes:
Introduce yourself and why you want to improve your communication.
Share about your family and background, languages, and what shaped you.
Talk about hobbies and a recent story from your downtime.
Describe your dream or what you want most.
This is your baseline, not your highlight reel.
Step 2 - Wait 24 hours, then watch as a stranger
Give it a day so you are kinder and more objective. On the first watch, do not pause or overanalyze. Note what stands out:
Overall vibe - confident, friendly, energetic, charismatic, or low energy.
Clarity - was the message easy to follow.
Presence - natural eye contact, authentic gestures, visible enthusiasm.
Capture high-level impressions in a workbook or notes.
Step 3 - Audio only review
Turn the phone face down and just listen.
Tone - playful, serious, warm, clear, nasal, harsh, soft.
Diction - any words hard to understand.
Pacing - clear phrases, strategic pauses, or a steady rush.
Fillers and non-words - ums, ahs, like, you know, kind of, actually.
Mark patterns without judgment. Awareness comes first.
Step 4 - Video only review
Mute the audio and watch the visuals.
Presence - confident, open, enthusiastic.
Body language - relaxed or stiff, natural or distracting gestures.
Eye contact - with the camera, steady and engaging.
Distractions - fiddling with glasses, hair, shifting weight, fidgeting.
Note anything that dilutes credibility or pulls attention from your message.
Step 5 - Get a transcript and annotate it
Transcribe your video using YouTube or a free AI tool. Read it out loud exactly as spoken.
Highlight non-words in one color - ums, ahs.
Highlight filler words in another - like, you know, actually.
Circle repeated phrases and unclear sections.
Underline long sentences without clear stops or structure.
This reveals structure, thought flow, and the precise habits to fix. If you only changed one thing, reduce fillers and replace them with clean pauses.
Make small changes, consistently
Pick two or three focus areas for the week - fewer is better.
Practice during everyday conversations - meetings, calls, family chats.
Smile a bit more when speaking - it lifts vocal energy and warmth.
As you improve, add two or three new targets.
Remember - your voice and style are learned behaviors. They can be updated. Small, consistent practice beats occasional big efforts.
The payoff
Improved communication compounds across your career and life - clearer authority, stronger relationships, more opportunities, and easier sales or promotions. The whole world is your stage. Treat every conversation as practice.
Watch the original video for the full walk-through:
